Most of us didn’t learn anything new about our husbands last week. In this season of starting “back to school” and motivating children to be life-long learners, somehow we’ve crossed “spouse” off the list of things we need to keep studying. After all, you have your man figured out, right?

3 reasons to never stop learning

1. He keeps changing with the seasons & circumstances of life
2. We keep changing with the seasons & circumstances of life
3. The seasons & circumstances of life keep changing

An A+ wife keeps on making it her business to understand the man she shares life with. She knows that life changes them both, and so she pays attention to and concentrates on gaining insight into her partner. As their circumstances ebb and flow with things like work, finances, health, and relationships, she doesn’t give up being skilled at reaching her husband … in his 20s, in his 30s, in “mid-life,” in his 50s, in his 60s, and beyond. Career changes, moves, and disappointments may change his inner and outer shape, but she is determined to stay sharp in the subject of “him” above all else on earth.

The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. Prov. 31:11-12

If a woman is satisfied with what she once learned and knew, she communicates several things to the man who claims her heart.

Why wives stop learning

• She believes he is no longer captivating
• She thinks she knows everything there is to know
• She doesn’t expect anything new & interesting to happen in him
• She is content to watch from a distance

Wives who stop learning miss out, and so do their husbands. We know that men are complex and wonderful creatures, even if they are so different than we are. There’s so much still to figure out; we never stop needing to grow to be skilled at relating to, caring for, talking to, and “unlocking” the mystery of our man. A husband is more likely to trust, to gain, and to love in return when he knows that he remains his wife’s favorite subject.

How to brush up in Husband 101

When it comes to the subject of a husband, there are volumes to be learned! If you feel stuck when it comes to Husband 101, try this:

1. Get yourself a new notebook. On page #1 write “My man.” (It does NOT matter how long you’ve been married!)
2. Write down 3 things you would like to know or understand about your man.
3. Ask God to show you something new about your man. Watch and listen.
4. This week, write down your observations of when he’s with other people, at work, at home, at church, at play … (They love it when we’re watching ….)
5. If he’s so important, doesn’t he deserve to be studied?  Keep on learning! (And if you’re discovered … just tell him, “I’m trying to understand you better. I want to know you. You’re my #1 subject!)

Proverbs 31 tells us that a great wife keeps on being a benefit by studying her man for every 24 hour period of her whole lifetime and his.  She IS a life-long learner, and among earthly subjects, her husband is her best class.

Have you learned anything new about your man lately?