Today is Marriage Monday, but this month we’re talking about what to do with the men in our lives. Do you have a son, father, husband, boyfriend, friend, brother? In February we’re taking 28 days to talk about “Him.” So far: STUDY him and to ENJOY him.

The first man named all of the first animals and then we read, “But for Adam,” (Genesis 2:20). He finished his first big task, only to have God announce, “there was not a helper fit for him.” Adam would serve them all, but none was suited to serve him. “But for Adam.”

In the pause before God put Adam to sleep, borrowed a rib, made a woman … I have to wonder if Adam didn’t have a little bit of a meltdown. Maybe Adam was disappointed.

Disappointed men today

Maybe Adam isn’t the only disappointed guy in the pages of history. Maybe men like Adam have felt frustrated at the absence of a helper suited for him. God said man needed help to do what they were tasked with doing. Maybe many modern men are frustrated because many modern women withhold the ministry of serving. Maybe many modern men fail to reach their potential because many modern women aren’t available or interested in serving them.

Mixed up women today

We have the power to serve them, yet we often withhold help because of mixed up messages we believe.

• What if he doesn’t serve me back?
• Maybe he’ll think I’m a doormat.
• I might not be appreciated.
• I could miss out on something while I’m serving.
• People will think I’m weak.
• I think I’ll wait ’til he’s deserving.
• Women have grown beyond that serving role.
• I’ve got too much potential for that.

God created woman to be a “helper fit for” man. Unlike slaves forced into unappreciated duty, God created women with high value to meet a unique need only they were designed to fulfill: to help men. While this is not the only contribution women offer, it’s one of great value.

Don’t be afraid to serve

Sadly, modern times have convinced many women that becoming a servant is to be a loser, to be less significant, and to relinquish significance. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Jesus himself showed us how to live out the high calling of servanthood when he “emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant,” (Philippians 2:6-8). As for the question of being an insignificant loser if you serve others, Jesus eliminated that lie when he said “The greatest among you shall be your servant.” (Matthew 23:11)

• Servants set themselves aside
• Servants willingly take on their role
• Servants put someone else first
• Servants are destined for greatness

Shepherding the world is no small task. Men aiming to be faithful to God’s call on their manhood will find themselves needing help. Some will marry, and some will not. All will benefit from women around them who embrace God’s divine design to serve the boys/men in their sphere of influence: mothers, sisters, friends, daughters, wives, and countless other women in their lives. Women great enough to be servants.

Don’t hold back for fear of being a doormat. As a woman, you have a sacred calling to serve. How beautiful!

Not sure what to do for the boy or man in your life? Here’s an idea: just ask, “Is there anything I can do to help you today?” Begin by serving him.

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