This is a day of drama, but, honestly, I don’t think there will be many divas in heaven. You see, I think we girls are all “born divas.” Even Eve couldn’t stand the thought of something good that she couldn’t get her little hands on. But to follow God means we have to become less so He becomes more, and learn what it is to serve.
“If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me,” (Matthew 16:24). To honor God and experience God’s great peace, we have to deny ourselves in our relationships. In other words, our diva has to die if we’re going to follow Jesus.
Most females don’t even have to try to be dramatic. It’s our gift … or our curse? This is not to say there aren’t some men who can hold their own when it comes to melodrama, but most men run from drama like a pig on Easter. I’m not making this up; once sin entered the picture (aka drama) God told Adam, “I will put enmity between you and the woman.” (Genesis 3:15-16). And men of all ages have been trying to do away with drama ever since. Even toddlers have been known to recognize “girl drama” for what it is. I believe a lot of men today resist taking the plunge into wedded bliss because they just can’t imagine a lifetime of drama. A man longs for a woman to spare him the drama.
What men think of drama
- Drama in a relationship exhausts me
- Drama in a relationship is so irritating
- Drama in a relationship provokes me
- Drama in a relationship pushes me away
- Drama in a relationship is just selfish
- Drama in a relationship shuts me down
- Drama in a relationship is impossible to please
You might be giving your man drama if
- You talk for long periods of time about 1 topic
- You use extreme statements to explain yourself
- You focus on feelings, intense feelings, not facts
- You talk really loud, fast, or high pitched as a habit
- You swing far and wide emotionally
- You are unpredictable in your responses
- You find yourself mostly talking and not listening
I’m afraid I still have my diva moments. Every now and then, she rises up unexpectedly, and I need God’s help to put her back in her place. I can’t be a diva and obey God’s Spirit at the same time. Let’s do our guys a favor and diminish our inner diva and the drama she brings. He will love you more if you SPARE him the drama.
Some truth here for sure. But we should also be teaching husband’s that God created their wives this way, and how to live well within it. Some of that ‘drama’ is actually a woman sharing her heart, caring deeply about things that may not matter to him, and sometimes there is so little response that there is nothing to listen to. This topic definitely has lessons for both husband’s and wives in it.
Definitely truth for both, but this month is all about “him.” So many of these truths have application for BOTH, because, as we know, it’s never just one-way street in a relationship. You won’t be surprised that I’ve wondered about doing a month all about “her!” But on a blog for women … I’m not sure that would help so much. I know I have some male readers, and I’m praying they’ll swap the pronouns and consider how to really know the women in their lives too. When it comes to drama, I think ramped up volume and emotion can sometimes be “saying” something. Maybe there’s a man-blog out there writing 28 Days About HER this month 😉