Christmas merriment has the potential to make our men miserable. A miserable marriage has a way of casting a shadow over a whole family. Hang these 3 actions as a wreath on your home, and your marriage can be merry.

3 Actions to Make Your Marriage Merry 

Let go of your list

You can be a decorating diva, or you can opt for peace. When a wife chisels her wish list in stone, she risks driving her man away. Insisting on a tree, lights, and gifts to satisfy our grownup dreams makes husbands feel disenfranchised. Nothing they can do is right. Nothing they contribute is enough. They’d rather be sent on a supply run to the North Pole! If a wife is demanding, she’s likely to find herself standing beneath the mistletoe alone.

Embrace your resources

No husband wants to wake up December 26^th with a debt to pay. Making extravagant wishes come true is not worth placing a burden on the shoulders of our marriage or our man. A wise woman gives her husband the gift of embracing her resources with gratitude, creativity, and contentment.

Deck the halls together

Many a willing husband has turned sour while trying to put lights on the tree … to please his wife. How about adjusting your expectations so the process isn’t so miserable for your man? Learn to love his idea of how presents should be wrapped! Duct tape can be beautiful! Instead of making the season a solo endeavor, why not decorate as a duo? You can have more than a merry Christmas; you can have a merry marriage! If he thinks the holidays are a hassle, maybe your expectations have caused the humbug.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (1 Corinthians 13: 4-7)

There are just 17 days until Christmas! You have a to-do list. Your husband can’t wait until the stress is over. Why not show him he doesn’t have to spend the holidays on the Island of Misfit Toys? Hold your plans loosely, embrace your resources, and make togetherness your tinsel. Have a merry marriage and man with these 3 actions to show him he is a gift.

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“Every journey is unique. Every heart is expectant.“

– Expectant, available on Amazon.